I recently attended my first (and netlogx’ first!) bridal shower for my colleague, Alyssa. The shower had everything I imagined a bridal shower would have: a bride, snacks, a cake, and presents. But it also had 20 or so netlogx employees, both female and male, who came to celebrate with Alyssa.
While Alyssa opened her kitchen utensils, pizza slicer, and bocce ball set (given to her by fellow netlogx colleague, Kristen Addison, and yours truly), the attendees all offered her advice and shared funny stories from their wedding night. Ranging from lighting their unity candle anytime they argue to being appreciative of things her husband does to help out, even if is not the way she would have done it, we all shared laughs hearing everyone’s different stories.
Personally, I think the best advice Alyssa received was not to sweat the small stuff. She will probably be stressing about anything and everything: are the flowers the right color? Did they deliver the correct cake? What’s the weather looking like? But in the end, she likely won’t remember these small details. She’ll remember celebrating with the people she loves.
This same advice can be applied to almost any situation. It’s easy to get caught up in the details, but at the end of the day they usually don’t matter. So you accidentally skipped an important bullet point in your presentation? The audience will never know. You haven’t done laundry in 2 weeks because you’ve been enjoying the nice summer weather? It’s not the end of the world.
Next time you’re stressing out over something, think to yourself, “Will this still bother me next week? Next month?”. If the answer is no, then try to just forget about it. There are more important things to worry about.
I hope Alyssa remembers this advice on her wedding day and the weeks, months, and years that follow. And I hope we all remember this advice as well. Life is too short to waste energy worrying. As Richard Carlson says, “Don’t sweat the small stuff…and it’s all small stuff”.